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Two Things To Know About Change

Caitriona Reed / Coaching, Conscious Leadership, NLP / resignation, transformational change /

June 24, 2013

Two Things To Know About Change

What does not change / is the will to change

– Charles Olson

I noticed, years ago, that most of the Buddhists I knew turned the notion of change into an absolute principle. “Don’t get too excited about anything, because it will fade away and disappear before you know it.” They had made it into a ‘thing’ called Impermanence with unspoken hints of nihilistic resignation; at least, that’s how it came across.

Then I thought of that well-known George Gershwin song:

“The way you hold your knife,
the way we danced ’til three,
The way you changed my life,
no, no, they can’t take that away from me.”

and remembered that although everything does indeed change, the impressions that each thing leaves can be very different.

Which brings me to the second thing to know about change, that Big, Life-changing, ‘rock you to your foundations’ change can be easy, long-lasting, and truly transformational,

Many people fear that such change is difficult, scary, hard to come by, and probably only effective for other people! But that’s simply not the case. Faith and doubt bear equal fruits. In other words, we fulfill our own expectations, whether we expect to or not! So when you set your expectations high and learn to get out of your own way you can’t not achieve them! .. like the little boy who dreamed of flying and grew up helping Wilbur Wright to invent airplanes.

Things to know about change:

Fast, long-lasting change is within your reach, and two things are necessary to achieve it; Here are the things to know about change:

clarity to know where you want to go
and the means to get you there i.e. the skills you need, and the people to support you, guide you, and hold you accountable to move through the obstacles you encounter on the way.

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Your Life: Just Getting By?

Caitriona Reed / Coaching, Conscious Leadership, Depression, Dissappointment, Emotional Intelligence / coping, defeat, despair, getting by, leadership, resignation /

January 22, 2013

It is Your Life

eeyore Someone recently commented how much they appreciated that Five Changes helped so many people to ‘cope.’ I was taken aback until I realized that ‘coping’ may be all that many people have come to expect—that just ‘coping’ is enough. Tell me it’s not true for you!

How much does defeatism and resignation play out in your life? In what ways have you learned to accommodate disappointment? We have all felt and expressed negativity at some time or other, often without realizing it. You might even say that it is completely natural – whatever natural means.

But the truth is that we are wired to feel good, not bad, and that in feeling good we function better, help others more, are more creative, see more options and possibilities .. and live as a celebration of life, rather than as a denial of it .. benefiting the entire universe along the way—because in the end isn’t that our imperative – to celebrate, and make our celebration contagious?

It sounds pretty obvious doesn’t it? But there’s more; and I wouldn’t want you to imagine that I am suggesting we take on a Pollyannaish approach to everything.

Negative emotions are not bad, they are simply misunderstood. As Michele pointed out in another piece she wrote, they are opportunities and gifts.

What does your anger, your impatience, your fear etc. tell you about your love, your values, your desires in your life?

What do negative (difficult) emotions tell you about being, living, responding to life in ways that are different from what you are doing in that moment when the negative emotion comes up?

What does your outrage at political hubris, for example, tell you about your love of honesty and integrity?

What does your rage at violence and injustice tell you about your love?

What does fear or frustration tell you about your own talents and creativity, and your desire to express them and put them out into the world?

Recognizing the creative power buried in the negative emotion/experience is the first step to standing in your own authentic power to impact the world .. not necessarily as a ‘leader’, but more importantly, as the leader of your life !

How you begin to harness it is the next step ..

Your life, Just Getting By? How much does defeatism and resignation play out in your life? What do negative (difficult) emotions tell you about living? leader of your own life. Mediation, NLP, spiritual practice, Neuro lingusitic programming, Hypnosis, personal development, unconscious mind.